When Weighing Yourself Sets the Mood for the Day!

You know what I am talking about. You get up in the morning and one of the first things you do is get on that scale. And most likely, you use that "number" to set your mood for the day! Admit it ... that number means something to you. It is a measure of how "good" you are doing with your weight loss. But it also can be very detrimental to your weight loss journey as well. And by the way, that number means "diddly squat"! It can fluctuate up and down and have absolutely NOTHING to do with whether you are becoming more healthy and fit! So keep that in mind next time you get on that scale.

Weighing Yourself and what you do with that number is a biggie when it comes to your success with losing weight!

You “keep score” every time you weigh yourself, don’t you?
Matter of fact, if you are under a Doctor’s guidance, that’s one of the first things they do when you step into their office.
Ok, let’s get on the scale. And then, that number is written in your charts and you judge yourself depending on what that number is.

Many people I work with have a love/hate relationship with the scale – is that you? Do you way yourself every day, multiple times in the day? Does the scale define how successful you are with your weight loss journey? Does it even set the mood for your day depending on what the number on that scale says?

Do you love it when it says you lost 5 pounds or 10 pounds and hate it when it says you lost nothing OR just 1 pound or god forbid it says you gained a pound or two (which, if you are gaining muscle mass may very well happen! Or this could just happen if you are holding water or it can depend on the time of day you choose to weigh yourself)

I know when I was on this weight loss journey that I had this type of relationship with the scale. That number that I read in the morning meant a LOT to me, until I had a personal trainer tell me to throw the damn scale out! Why? Because it was not serving me! I weighed myself a lot – I was obsessed with that damn number and I had this “ideal number” in my head – don’t even know where that number came from! The further I was from that, the worse I felt. The closer I was to it, the better I felt. Not a good dynamic to set up for yourself.

“Keeping score” (when it came to weighing myself) was not making me feel good many days – I wanted to see huge results – after all, I was working out and eating better and I wanted to see proof that I was succeeding at this goal. Some days were “better” than others.

But, if “keeping score” is going to make you feel bad (more often than not) as opposed to motivating you (no matter what the number says) then, you have to stop keeping score.

Remember … this weight loss journey is all about feeling good. From the place of feeling good, you will have an easier time to lose that excess weight. If you are discouraged, de-motivated, upset about what the scale says, how can you take healthy action steps from that place?

Why look at something that has the potential to throw your mood off if it’s not what you want to see?

And anyway, nothing outside of yourself (even if it is measuring your weight) should have any power over you and how you feel.

You choose joy. You are the one who is in charge of your emotions.

Now, if you are someone who has a LOVE/LOVE relationship with the scale and no matter what that number says you are in a rockin’ place and feel really good – then, keep on doing what you are doing!

This is a personal thing and you know what’s best for you and what makes you feel good. Only you know this.

So, KEEPING SCORE … let’s talk about all the things you can “keep score” on during this weight loss journey that would make you feel good.

Make a list of all the things that you feel are healthier steps for you that when you do them, you feel really good you took these healthy action steps.

For instance, let’s say you notice that when you drink more water during the course of the day, you feel better. Well, great – start turning this into a game. Keep score of how many bottles or glasses of water you drank that day. Make a chart. Write it down. If that is something that you equate with getting healthier, then keep score of that and watch your progress. Now, don’t beat up on yourself if one day you have one less glass of water – big whoops – so what? The whole point of this “keeping score game” is so that you have something to keep score on that makes you feel good – it’s something that says to you “I’m making progress” “I’m taking action steps” – it’s affirming that you ARE on your way to a healthier body. You are celebrating the baby steps, which when you think of it are extremely important. After all, you don’t get to the top of the mountain by taking one big leap – it’s one step at a time!

So, what else can you take score of that will make you feel good, make you feel like you are on a healthier path?
Brainstorm this right now.

Make a list of all the things you feel that would be healthier action steps you could take. Now, look them over and see which ones resonate the most with you. Ones that you feel inclined to do and would enjoy keeping score on them.

I keep track on my calendar of how many times I walk each week. I mark it down on my computerized calendar and love to take a look at the end of the month and see how many times I took my 4-mile walk. It’s quite empowering to see. It feels good.

What else could you keep score on that will make you feel good (yes, there is a theme here – it’s all about feeling good – are you getting that point)?

Here are a few ideas, but they must come from you. I don’t recommend any of them in particular, but these are some examples of things my clients have kept score of that made them feel empowered and it affirmed to them that they were on their way to that ideal weight!

1) How many times you took the steps instead of the elevator?
2) How many times per week you had ate more fruit?
3) How many calories you ate during the course of the day – I had one person who loved doing this in an excel spreadsheet and seeing how good he was doing – now, this is not something that feels good to me – I don’t want to be counting any calories, however, this is not about me – this is about you and what will work for you!
4) How many times you go to the gym
5) How often you meditate or visualize your success
6) Getting massages and keeping score of how many times you are treating yourself like royalty. Don’t underestimate the power of that! This is a BIGGIE! Be kind to YOU. Shower yourself with oodles of love. Self love is one of the best action steps you can take to manifesting a healthy and fit body!

The list can go on…

Just remember that this is all about keeping score on things that you believe will make you healthier, things that you will enjoy doing (not shoulds) and things that would make you feel really good to keep score on.

And if keeping score isn’t your thing … then don’t do it.

But I do know that you need to turn your focus on what IS working, what you ARE doing to get fit – you must focus on the progress you are making, even if you are not taking score – you need to “see” the shifts and remind yourself that you are doing well.

Don’t judge the baby steps as “not enough” – celebrate them. Because the more you celebrate, the more you will have to celebrate in the future. You know what I mean?

Yes, I am referring to the Law of Attraction again … what you concentrate on ... expands. Like attracts like.

If you focus more on that you are NOT THERE YET and that you have so much further to go, that weight loss goal of yours will stay out there ... in the distant future.

Bring it closer to home; notice (keep score) of what you are doing that you deem as healthier. Feel good about it. Feel good about you!

You are making progress. You are on a new path.

Celebrate these new tools you have to help you lose weight and reset your mindset. Now that's something to keep score of!

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WHY do you REALLY Want to Lose that Excess Weight?

I always tell my coaching clients that it is important for them to TAP INTO THE FEEL GOOD PLACE OF WHY (they want to achieve their goal). It is very important to feel that feeling prior to the manifestation because it is that particular feeling that is going to open up the doors to you living your dream!

Imagine right now having that healthy and fit body you want. What does it feel like? What are you doing as a result of having this new found rockin’ body?

Has your life changed? Are you doing things that you never have done before but always dreamed about doing?

What are those things? Can you envision what life would be like when you are at your ideal weight? What has changed? Are you the same person or are you showing up differently as a result of your successful weight loss?

My weight loss coaching programs are not about what you should eat or how you should exercise to get healthy. It’s about resetting your mindset so that you pave the way for success when it comes to your weight loss journey.

Why do you think so many people still have “weight issues”? Why are you still working on this area of your life?

Do you think it is because you are not eating the right things? You are not exercising enough? Not disciplined enough? Not on the right diet?

What is it?

Why do so many people lose lots of weight, feel good for a while, and then put the weight right back on? What’s that about?

I am here to tell you that it is ALL about the MindSet and the stories we tell ourselves about our bodies, the foods we eat, our life. It's more about the emotional "stuff" not the actual FOODS or the exercises we choose to do! Yes, that will bring temporary success -- but will it bring PERMANENT success?

Many people, maybe even you, have a Fat Mindset ... now, don’t take offense to that. I sometimes have that type of mindset too. But I can catch myself in the moment when I have those types of thoughts and reset my mindset to “think thin” “feel healthy & fit” and align with well-being. I teach my coaching clients how to do this so that losing weight becomes a much easier goal than they every thought it was!

You can learn how to be HAPPY right now with what you have. I know... you are not thrilled with the way you look right now --- or at minimum you definitely want to look different than how you look now.

But here’s the secret that I help my coaching clients uncover during the course of our work together ...

Are you ready .. here it is .. you have to stop beating up on yourself! You have to start appreciating your body for what it is. You need to align with what brings you joy before you can even make lasting changes in your overall health.

Now, I know that might sound difficult from where you are standing right now, but that’s why I am here. I am going to help make that process easy for you.

What if you are making it harder than it needs to be?

I tried to lose weight for many years (from high school into college and into my first 2 corporate jobs) .. but then one day I said “enough is enough” – I got on that scale, so the number on the scale and reach that pivotal point in my life where I decided

“this was it” – I had to have a different attitude, take different action steps, if I wanted to be successful with losing the weight and keeping it off.

Looking back on that time, I can tell you that the new attitude I was embracing came from a place of JOY – why JOY? Because I was a happy place in my life – I just got a new job which paid very well, had a great position, and potential to move up the corporate ladder. I had a wonderful place to live, an easy commute to work and had total freedom to live my life the way I wanted to. In all aspects I felt pretty darn good with myself.

And because of that feeling, that joy, that new found energy of moving into a new home, new job, new income level ... I naturally came to a conclusion that “enough was enough” when it came to my overweight body.

I joined a gym (on my own – in a new area where I knew nobody). I naturally started eating more vegetables and what I considered ‘healthier”.

But the moral of that story is NOT that I was eating differently and starting to work out ... the message from that is that the inspiration came from me being in a place of joy. Yes, that’s the key.

I have a few questions for you that I would like you to start working on (write your answers down and really put some thought into these):

1) WHY do you want to lose this weight? What will happen as a result of you losing that excess weight? How will you feel? What will you be doing that’s different than what you are doing now?

2) Are you doing this for YOU? Really YOU? Or is someone else telling you that you must lose weight because ... (their reasons, not yours)

3) Can you tap into that “feel good place of WHY”? Try it now. Imagine yourself 1 year from now with a body that is fit and healthy. How does that feel? Start to envision your life as if you already have that body that is aligned with total wellness. How does that feel? Ahhhhhh ...really feel that wonderful elated feeling of knowing that you are healthy, fit and empowered!

Now, if you are having difficulties with step #3, no worries -- sometimes my coaching clients can't imagine themselves thinner and healthier. That's OK -- it's probably too unbelievable from where you stand right now. So, here's what I want you to do instead: You know how you look in the mirror now and have a few choice words that you say to yourself when you look at your body? (Yes, you know .. all those self-degrading things you say about your body and how it looks.) Well, I want you to think about what you would like to say to yourself when you look in the mirror. How would you like to feel? Do you want to say "oooh, I look REAL good today" or do you want to feel "empowered" and "beautiful". Think about the type of thoughts & feelings you would like to have on a daily basis towards your body and how you look. That's what I would like you to do.

Your body responds to your thoughts and feelings and throughout and you can learn how to shift those thoughts and feelings to ones that are way more empowering and positively impact all the cells of your body.

Your body actually responds to everything you say to yourself about you, about your body and your overall health and well-being? Think about stress... I'm sure you are aware of the negative impact it has on your overall health and well-being. Many diseases and health conditions stem from feeling stressed. So, YES ... how you feel plays a huge role in how healthy your body actually is!

If you tell yourself that you are a “fat slob” or “disgusting” or a “cow”, your body responds to those negative thoughts. And forget about what those things you say to yourself do to your confidence level and spirit.

My coaching clients learn how to be kinder to themselves. Being kind to you is one of the most important steps in making positive changes in your life, including weight loss.

You can learn how to tell yourself a different story about who you are and what you are capable of doing. A story that will empower you instead of discourage you.

Start thinking about all those things you tell yourself on a daily basis about your “weight”, your “body”, your “image”. Start becoming 100% aware of how mean you can be to yourself.

Awareness is the first step to change.

I want you to start writing down WHY you want to lose weight.

I want you to TAP INTO THAT FEEL GOOD PLACE OF WHY – use your positive visualization muscles. You are REAL good at imagining and visualizing the worst case scenarios so NOW I want you to start imagining the best case scenario. Visualize having what you want. Imagine having a healthy & fit body already. Feel it. Breathe it in. Know it is YOURS! It’s a DONE DEAL!

I also want you to start being kinder to you. Catch yourself in the act of being mean to you and turn it around. Find something you do like about you in that moment. Remind yourself that it is just a story you are telling yourself and that you are worth it. You can have it all. You are a wonderful person who deserves the best life you can possible live.

You can do this. A thinner and healthier body is just around the corner. The question is "do you have the right mindset" and "love yourself enough right now" to make it happen?

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Oprah's Interview with Geneen Roth - Author of Women Food and God

Since this topic is such a passion of mine to teach my clients, I wanted to see the interview that Oprah did last week with Geneen Roth about her new book: Women, Food and God.

As I have been blogging about for quite some time now, the most important thing that impacts the state of your overall health is the nature of your thoughts and feelings. The fitness level of your body is MORE dependent on

1) What you think and feel about your body (do you critique your body every time you look in the mirror?),

2) What you feel about all areas of your life (are there some areas of your life that you feel lackful and worry constantly about?),

3) Your BELIEFS about the foods you eat & the exercise you have to do in order to stay fit (do you have beliefs that some foods will make you fat and then eat them anyway, do you believe you have a "slow metabolism" and that your "skinny" friends are blessed with a high metabolism? That story will definitely impact what happens with your body!),

4) How you deal with the emotional stress in your life (do you go to food immediately when you are under a great deal of stress to "feed" your emotions, instead of addressing them head on?)

It's not about the food, the exercise, dieting, nutritional supplements ... it's about your beliefs, your relationship with you, how you deal with the stessors in your life. Your weight is a by-product of what you think and feel on a daily basis. Period.

On the Oprah show last week, Geneen Roth spoke about "never dieting again" and got to the issue of WHY people are fat. Many of you may think that if you just eat the "right foods" than BAM ... the weight will just come off! Not so. If there was some magic bullet to lose weight then everyone would be skinny.

It's about your RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. I work with my coaching clients to understand the real reasons why they are overweight. Like I teach in my Law of Attraction Weight Loss Program, it's about resetting your "fat" mindset. It's also about SHIFTING your thoughts and feelings so they are aligned with wellness & joy. It's about being kinder to you. It's about "addressing the stress".

All the people that were interviewed on the Geneen Roth Oprah show had one thing in common...
They were not happy with where they were at in their life and they were definitely NOT happy with their bodies.

There was so much self judgment and self-loathing - and that only STOPS you from attracting the body you so desire to have.

What I believe is that many overweight people (especially women) are "FEEDING their emotions" instead of "FEELING their emotions and then making a conscious choice to reach for a better feeling."

This is what I am so passionate about teaching my clients to do so that they can feel more joy in this moment, which will open the door and lead them to a healthier and more fit body!

One of the women interviewed on the Oprah Show said that "When I am eating, I don't think about anything else" -- however, this same woman had worries about her Mom, brother and other concerns when it came to her quality of life. It's about addressing these other concerns that is more important than immediately trying to address the excess weight. The excess weight is more about the emotional baggage that people hold onto and the excessive focusing on their body that they loathe!

Matter of fact Geneen Roth mentioned what many women are doing is just adding an extra level of pain to what they are already experiencing. How? Well, they have emotions to life situations that they are just feeding with food that is just going to make them feel even worse later on. Because then, what most of you do, is you beat up on yourself AFTER you eat that way and then you feel even worse than you did before.

I had a doctor client who was so overwhelmed with the stress and demands of her job while simultaneously trying to balance a family of 6 kids that she turned to fried cheese curds as a meal. But then after eating the fried cheese curds felt so bad and was beating up on herself so much that it just ADDED to the stress level that she felt. And on top of that, she had the attitude that "well, I may as well eat unhealthy later since I already screwed up today". But then I coached her around the stress and helped her be at peace with where she was at right in that moment so that she could embrace a different attitude for the meal later on that night. When she left that coaching call, she was feeling so much better about herself and her life, that she chose the healthier option to balance out her "fried" choice earlier on in the day.

Bottom line ... you have to FEEL GOOD in order to make healthier decisions. From a place of Being Happy and Lovin' Life Now, you will more easily align with total wellness than you would if you are depressed, de-motivated and beating up on yourself every single day.

I am going to state my popular quote again =>

"Being Happy Makes You Healthy!" ~Lesetz

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National Stress Awarness Month - De-Stress and Love Life!

April is National Stress Awareness Month and I couldn't resist posting about this very popular subject of STRESS and how to eliminate it from our everyday lives.

Stress impacts our lives negatively in every way, shape and form. Our bodies respond negatively to stress. (And YES, you can gain weight just from being stressed!) Our relationships can fall apart as a result of feeling stressed. Our money situation can become "doom and gloom" as a result of the stress we feel.

Some of you may think that it is the other way around -- that we are stressed because of our financial situation or because of an area of our life that is not going too well -- but that is not the case; we are stressed because of what we choose to think and feel about our current life experiences.

Feeling stressed is a choice. Being happy is a choice.

We are all at choice on how we respond to what life throws our way. But here's the good news and bad news ...

If we respond with feeling stressed and worried to a specific life event, our life experiences will reflect that "in kind" - meaning we will attract to us more things to worry about (that's the bad news!). But if we respond by taking a breath, realizing that it's our response to that life situation that creates the results and then deliberately choosing more peaceful thoughts, releasing all worry and doubt, then our life will unfold beautifully (that's the good news).

In both of those scenarios there is one thing they have in common ... the power we have within to create our life experiences. It's all in our hands.

Paint a picture of what stress looks like? If you had a paintbrush and could represent "stress" in a painting or piece of art, what would it look like? For me, it would NOT look very pretty? It would represent "chaos" and "ugly" and would have a disorganized, disturbing look to it. Now imagine that same image (which is just energy) resonating at every cell of your body. Yes, STRESS is felt to the core of your being. What do you think that stressful energy does to your overall health and wellness? It surely does NOT benefit you.

Now, picture PEACE. Paint it. Represent a feeling of calm, peace and feeling joy in the moment. What would that picture look like? To me, it would have beautiful colors that soothe and refresh the soul. It would have a flow to it that feels so good. It would be a picture that is engaging and draws you in, wanting you to look at it more and more and having a positive impact on your mood.

Imagine what the picture of peace and calm would do to the insides of your body. Your cells feel that too and will respond "in kind". Your body will Thank You for embracing that energy of peace. You will sleep better; you will feel more energetic and motivated. Your body will move more with ease.

If you are stressed about your relationships, career or financial situation, then learn how to shift your mindset to a more peaceful energy right here, right now. Decide that today is the day that you are going to do something different that will help you to manage that stress more effectively. Speed Coaching can be just the thing that will jump-start your journey to a stress-free life. Once you learn how to de-stress and Love Life Now, your dreams will unfold beautifully and the state of your overall health will improve ten-fold (inside and out)!

If you find that you are one of those people that GAIN weight when you are under a lot of stress, then sign up for my Law of Attraction Weight Loss MindSet Program where you will learn how to reset your mindset to a more peaceful state of mind and reduce the stress you feel each and every day. Once you do this, your body will respond "in kind" and show you how happy it is that you are less stressed. Those poor food choices you make when you are stressed, will shift to more inspired, healthy choices that are aligned with Wellness.

It IS within your control to feel more at peace, even during those times where you feel you are in the middle of a "life storm". As a Stress Management Coach, I can help you to find that peace within.

There are many tools and resources that can help you to reduce or dare I say "eliminate" STRESS! What you feel is 100% within your control.

Click Here to see my top recommendations for stress relief tools and products (such as the emWave Personal Stress Reliever, The Sedona Method, & Money Mojo Magic) and begin your journey to stress-free living and Lovin' Life, no matter what!

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The Ultimate "Feel Great - Lose Weight" Law of Attraction Program

Is weight loss going to be your New Year goal ... again?

Are you tired of the same old programs that promise you results that you can't maintain for the long haul?

If so, then you must check out my New Year weight loss coaching program where you will learn how to leverage the Laws of Attraction to shift your MindSet to attract that healthy and fit body for good!

You will only see permanent weight loss results when you learn how to align your thoughts and feelings with well-being, joy and great health! And I will show you how to do this in my 6-week group coaching program that starts in January.

Just go to => The Ultimate Weight Loss Law of Attraction Coaching Program

Please note: During this 6-week group coaching program, I will NOT be telling you how to eat or exercise ... this program is all about shifting your mindset so that you are aligned with the health and well-being you so desire. Once you have that right, everything else will fall into place!

Just think about all the benefits of having a healthy and positive mindset, no matter what is going on in your life:

- You will be far more motivated

- You will make healthier choices because you have a wellness mindset

- Your self-image and confidence will improve, no matter what your current body looks like

(This is a big one ... if you judge your body and do not like what it looks like right now and continue to focus on the parts of your body you don't like, how can you attract the body you do want? It is just not possible with that type of self-image!)

- You will eliminate all those shoulds (throw them away ... literally!)

- You will start to take inspired actions towards attracting a healthier and more fit body.

- You will be experiencing far more joy in your life on a daily basis which will help you to manifest MORE than just a fit body, it will help you to realize your dreams!

The Law of Attraction is always in action, whether you are attracting the good or the bad. So, you might as well learn how to stay in that FEEL GOOD place so that you can continue to attract the experiences that you want in your life, not the ones that you don't!

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