Law of Attraction and Weight Loss: When your "self worth" is tied to your How your Body Looks!

I recently had a Doctor coaching client tell me that she was more credible when she was fit and athletic. And that when she was "out of shape" (by her standards) that she did not feel as credible in every area of her life. The first thing I did was to point out to her that she was making her "worth" and "credibility" conditional upon something outside of her. After all, how you look does not define who you are as a person.

I know, in today's society there are many things that point to quite the opposite. A lot of emphasis is put on "how you look" and that the prettier you are, the more likely you are to get a job or that "gig". But honestly, I don't buy it! What you get is what you believe about you. My client was basically setting herself up for some really "crappy" feeling moments in her life. And it doesn't have to be that way. We get to choose what we believe. And we decide are SELF WORTH on the inside, not based on the outside stuff.



So, I gave my client an exercise to start proving herself "wrong" -- to look for the times in her life where she is very "credible", but not necessarily in that tip top shape that she so desires. Sure, being in shape makes us feel more empowered, we feel lighter and possibly even more energetic ... but making the correlation between your "weight" and how "good" or "credible" or "worthy" you are??? That is just setting you up for failure.

Now, some people might say they get motivated by putting themselves down when they are not living up to their standards. Well, this may work temporarily, but over the course of time, it is going to wear on you. When I asked my client how she FEELS when she believes that, she said "CRAPPY"! That's an indication right there that it is time to change what you believe. It is time to start proving yourself wrong. It is time to start telling yourself a different story.

What she was believing was NOT motivating her, matter of fact it was doing quite the opposite. She was more likely to NOT exercise and to eat foods that were not as healthy as she usually eats. She was disgusted with herself. And here's where the Law of Attraction kicks in. If you are "disgusted" with yourself and keep on focusing on what you don't like about your body and judge yourself about how poorly you are doing, then you are going to attract more things in your life that are going to make you feel "disgusted" and "icky" about you. Like attracts like. That's the basic premise of the Law of Attraction.

So decide today that no matter what you look like on the outside, that's all that matters is what you think and believe about you on the inside. There are people in the world that are confident and love who they are, despite how much they weigh or what type of job they have or what the outside world is saying about them. Confidence and self worth come from within and we all have access to that.

To Your Health & Happiness,
Life Coach, Maria Lesetz

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Your Thoughts about the Foods You Eat - impacts your weight!

Did you know that you have a "food vibration"? Sounds like a new song or something. Oh, oh, oh ... food vibration! HA!

Basically, your "food vibration" is what you are telling yourself about the foods you eat and how you are feeling as a result of those daily thoughts you have around food. Once you are aware of what you are telling yourself, you can shift it so that you start feeling better about what you put into your body. You can also start paying attention to WHY you gravitate towards the foods you eat and if it is really coming from a place of joy or if you are just eating because you are stressed or bored.

Here's a little exercise that I give my weight loss coaching clients. Play with this one and see what comes up for you:

Take a blank piece of paper and draw a line down the center of the page. (It would be ideal if this paper was lined paper so you can keep track of each item easily)

On the left-hand side of the page, I want you to make a list of all the foods that you absolutely LOVE to eat (right now, list all your favorite foods – yes, including that piece of chocolate or piece of cheese cake or a medium rare piece of filet mignon) – don’t over-think this too much – just jot down all those foods you perceive as “yummy”.

Now, I want you to pay attention as you are writing them down, as to what you are telling yourself about these foods. So, on the right-hand side of the page, jot down next to each food item what initially came up for you when you thought of that food – what story do you tell yourself about it? For example, if your first item was ice cream – do you say “this is going to make me fat” or “this is bad for me” or do you say “every time I eat this I just thoroughly enjoy it – it brightens up my day and there is no guilt at all!” Do you get the idea? You can even use a “+” or “-“ sign on that right-hand column to represent whether you tell yourself that this food is “good for you” or “bad for you”.

What you are doing right now is taking a food thought inventory so that you are more aware of the stories you tell yourself when it comes to what you put in your mouth.

As you can imagine, if you are telling yourself the story that “chocolate is going to make you fat”, what do you think your body is going to do with that thought? Remember ... everything is energy and when you say “chocolate is going to make me fat”, you are affirming just that. And your body will respond accordingly. Don’t believe me? What happens when you eat the foods that you believe to be unhealthy or fattening and continue to do so? Do you find yourself feeling good about yourself? Are you losing weight as a result of eating these perceived “bad foods”? I don’t think so.




There are people who can eat many of those foods that you deem as “bad for you” and they don’t gain weight – why is that? (I know, you just can’t stand those people!) I know someone who believes “I eat whatever I want, and never gain weight!” and that’s their reality. But that same person listens to what their body is telling them and is eating from a place of joy, not from a place of emotional baggage & feeling stressed.

So, let’s get back to your list. I want you to scan the list again and ask yourself the following question:

When do I typically crave this food? What’s happening before I make the choice of eating this food?

What I am getting at here is that you may be the person that reaches for that bag of cookies when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, angry, etc. And that one choice might turn into eating a whole bag of cookies and then you feel guilty because you did.

If you are starting to see a pattern in what you tell yourself about the foods you eat and at what times you are actually drawn to them – that’s great! Because once you recognize and are aware of what you do, you can change it. That’s quite empowering, isn’t it?

For me, I love dark chocolate and I have my daily fix each day. However, I would be in that right-hand column a big “+” sign for this food item, because there is no guilt, no dis-empowering story I am telling myself about dark chocolate – it’s just is a feel good food that I feel good about before, during and after I eat it!

So, do I gain weight from eating dark chocolate ... NO? Do I over indulge in it … NO! It’s a treat that I enjoy. Period. That’s it.

Get it?

So, if you have a wonderful clean energy around that food that you really like – no guilt, no story of “this makes me fat”, and you are drawn to it when you are feeling good and Lovin’ Life, then it’s all good.



But, if you find that you are telling yourself a story that a particular food is “bad for you” or if you are drawn to that food when you are in a stressed out place, then you need to either change the story (and really believe the new one) or honor your beliefs and don't eat that particular food and most of all, if you are eating from a place of stress, you need to address the stress first without "feeding it" ...literally.

Many times we don't even eat because we are hungry or desire some treat, just for the pleasure of it. We eat because we are stressed and somehow that "food" fills a void ... temporarily. But it never addresses the emotional baggage that lies underneath. That's the stuff that I work on with my weight loss coaching clients, so that next time they feel stressed, they have an abundance of Law of Attraction techniques to help them relieve the stress, feel more at peace and align with total wellness with ease!

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Maria

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You Burning Questions about Health & Wellness: EXERCISE ... UGH! ... A Law of Attraction Perspective

Day 4 of your Burning Questions around the topic of Health and Wellness. I think I am starting a newspaper column here. Now, remember, I am not necessarily giving the "traditional" answers to these questions. I am answering them from the perspective of a Law of Attraction Health Coach and my own personal viewpoint on the topic.

Here we go ... today's question is about exercise! Yes, that word that many of you dread. You feel that you "should" be exercising but you don't quite have the motivation or desire to exercise.

Question #4: Want to change my feelings on EXERCISE!


I am wondering if I can change my feelings on exercise! Now, I adore how well my body functions/serves me and have been pretty fortunate thus far. I just really have never found any physical activity that I really LOVE doing on any sort of regular basis. I want to change this about myself, because I want to treat my body well. While I'd like to be fitter right now, this has less to do with that and more to do with just wanting to enjoy exercise like some folks do. Running literally feels like someone swiping razor blades through my lungs! Of course I love to dance...but I am not the best at it so I don't love being a part of actual dance classes. I love ballroom dancing, but don't really have the funds to take those lessons. I'd like to integrate awesome physical activity into my world without it feeling like such a chore!


And here's my answer:

There is always SOMETHING that you can find (that you would LOVE) that may not be considered "traditional exercise" but IS moving your body in a way that makes you feel ROCKIN'!

Many of my clients have had a lot of "shoulds" around this topic and anytime you come from a place of "should" the outcome is not optimal. And anyway, if it is not aligned with what brings you JOY, it's not going to be fun -- and who wants to be doing something that isn't FUN?!

I can't say enough about doing things when you are coming from a place of "I should" do this or "others think I should do this" --- it's just not aligned with JOY and the end result that you are looking to achieve will never be to your liking when it is a "should". I feel one of the most important "exercises" you can do is to raise your vibration around how you feel on a daily basis. I had a client who was referred to me by a Naturopath Doctor who wanted me to just tell this client to do everything she was telling her to do.

However, my client was "shoulding all over herself" with "I should cut out all gluten from my diet", "I should eat salads for lunch", "I shouldn't eat those potato chips I so love", I should, I shouldn't, I should, I shouldn't ... you get the idea. She also hated exercise and had absolutely no desire to go on a treadmill that had recently become her clothes line. Exercising was a "should" for her as well! A BIG should!

I started working with her on learning how to reach for a better feeling each and every day, making her happiness level her #1 priority. She learned how to address the stress in her life and minimize it. She learned how to pivot to what she wanted to happen instead of focusing and dwelling on what she didn't like about her life and her body. I also encouraged her to stop beating up on herself so much when she "slipped up", according to what she was told she "should do". She learned to be kinder to herself! And wouldn't you know, one day she came to the coaching session and said to me "Guess what I did? I went on my treadmill for 15 minutes today!" This was HUGE for her!!! And why do you think she felt naturally drawn to that? Because she was feeling better about herself and her overall life ... all because she was NOW deliberately choosing different thoughts and feelings. She was vibrating higher (as us Law of Attraction teachers call it) or for you NON-Law of Attraction people, she was feeling so much better than she had ever felt before and as a result she was motivated to do something that was aligned with great Health and Wellness. No surprise to me!

That's the way The Law of Attraction works!

I personally believe that when you are Lovin' Life in this red hot moment and appreciating all the blessings in your life, your body will be naturally drawn to things that are good for your body (food and exercise included), keeping it functioning at its best!

So, the first thing I recommend is to definitely be selfish with your vibration and make sure you are making a conscious effort each day to FEEL GOOD, by focusing on what you DO want in your life, by engaging in activities that put a smile on your face, and by being extra kind to #1 ... YOU!

I also recommend that you ask your inner guidance as to how you could move your body in a way that would make you feel the way you want that "exercise" to feel (e.g., invigorating, energizing, alive, on cloud nine, etc.) -- you get the idea. You may not get the answer right away but just be open to receiving the answer.

Also here are some questions for you to ponder that will help you to uncover what you are really looking for...

* How do you want to feel as a result of exercising?

* What particularly are you looking for the exercise to do for you?

* Why do you want to enjoy exercise like some folks do? Do you feel like you are missing out on something? If so, what would that be?

Physical activity can be AWESOME and it doesn't have to feel like a chore -- matter of fact, that would be an indication that it is not the right physical activity for you (at least not one that you want to do on a regular basis).

When you are aligned with JOY on a regular basis, loving your life as it is and loving who you are right now in this present moment, you will be naturally drawn to activities that are healthy for you! The perfect exercise will reveal itself to you -- one that will be so much fun, you won't even call it "exercise"! It will be at the top of your JOY LIST!

Have a Lovin' Life rest of the day!

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Your Burning Questions about Health & Wellness: Chocolate Addiction or just LOVE? ... A Law of Attraction Perspective

Ok ... here we are on Day 3 of your burning questions when it comes to Health & Wellness and how specifically you can be a deliberate creator of your experiences when it comes to your physical well-being. This question is a really good one for all of you out there that LOVE LOVE LOVE chocolate but on some level think that it is "bad" for you.

Read on and feel free to post your comments about this "yummy" subject!

Question #3 from a Chocolate LOVER:

I'm really interested in learning about food addiction. Okay, I'll cut to the chase -- chocolate addiction. (I am eating a piece of chocolate as I write this...)

I know that it's more than just the physical addiction to the sugar, theobromine, etc in the chocolate. Intuitively, I'm aware of both the energy and the emotional charge I have behind chocolate.

I've done a lot of energy-shifting work around letting go of the need for chocolate, too, and it's worked for awhile, but not of the energy has shifted in a permanent manner.

Part of me is whispering, "I have an addiction!" and part of me is resisting that idea in the first place. It's like a big old chocolately slice of resistance, all around.
Truth be told, I really love chocolate. But I don't love feeling like I *need* it in order to have a good day, or to feel peppy.

And since my own intuition tends to konk out around this issue (resistance!), I'd love some insight.



And here's my unique answer to this wonderful question:

I just finished eating a piece of dark chocolate myself and I enjoyed every bit of it!

But, now on to your question ...

You want to learn about food addiction (well, chocolate addiction).

You indicated in your post above that you have done a lot of work around "letting go of the need for chocolate", that it "worked for a while", but that the energy hasn't shifted "in a permanent manner".

So, here are some questions for you:
1) Do you want to stop eating chocolate all together? If so, WHY? Is it a weight thing? Are you worried that it will translate to weight gain? Do you just have a belief that is is "bad" for you and that you "shouldn't" eat it? What's the reason WHY this is such a "hot button" and why it is such a big deal if you have an "addiction" to it? Just asking these questions in a very loving way.

2) What are you telling yourself about having this "addiction"? What story are you telling yourself that is holding onto the resistance?

3) What type of feeling to you have when you do indulge in chocolate? You said that you REALLY love it, but you don't love the feeling of "needing" it to have a good day. Fair point ... so, what great feeling do you have when you do eat chocolate and how can you reach for that same feeling in other areas of your life? For example, if chocolate makes you feel "peppy" or gives you that "boost of energy" you feel you need, what other types of activities would give you that "peppy" feeling or "boost of energy"? There are an abundant of things that can do the same thing.

For me, loving chocolate is OK. I don't feel I need it to get through my day, but I look forward to it and enjoy it thoroughly when I am having it. There's no guilt, no charge, no feeling of "oh my God, I'm addicted to this", it is just a daily pleasure that I engage in that puts a smile on my face. Does that mean I am addicted to it? I don't think so. But then again, I don't even think of the word "addicted" when it comes to chocolate. It's just a thing I enjoy doing, similar to taking a 4-mile walk down by the river or going out to eat to my favorite restaurant with my honey, or coaching my wonderful clients. It's a vortex thing!

So, let me know your answers to the above questions, and if you would like to have a complimentary strategy session with me around this topic or anything else, I would be happy to oblige. I am here to help you get in the vortex and be Lovin' Life more than you ever have before (with or without chocolate)!

To Your Happiness & Health!
~Maria

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Burning Questions about Health & Wellness: Allergies again?! ... A Law of Attraction viewpoint - Part II!

This is Day 2 of my rampage of answers to Health & Wellness questions I received on a Law of Attraction forum. Remember, I am answering these questions from the perspective of the power of your thoughts and feelings and how that impacts the state of your overall health and wellness. I am not a Doctor, and don't claim to be one. But I am aware and believe fully in the power of the mind and how it impacts our physical bodies.

So here it goes ... Question #2:

I am having problems again with my allergies going out of control (mainly food allergies). Things that used to be fine are suddenly giving me reactions. This happened in early December too, and I thought I tracked down the cause then, but now it is happening again. I have been trying to think what the vibrational cause could be, but I am stumped. Except for this, my life is going better now than it has in a long while. It's a mystery. I'd appreciate any insight you may have. I know MS is autoimmune too, did you have any insights as to what that was indicating?


And here's my answer:

I think the most important thing is to not try to figure it out. (Something I have learned that has served me really well once I embraced it.)

When you try to figure out WHY something "negative", "bad" or "off" is happening, you give it more attention and it will continue to happen. So, my first recommendation would be to stop trying to figure out why it is back.

On a side note, you did ask about the DX of MS -- my theory is that it was a result of STRESS I felt in corporate and that's how it manifested in my body. But that's the only attention I give it (in the answering of your question). Bottom line that I tell all my coaching clients is that what's important now, in this present moment, is that you make peace with it and align with wellness & joy (which I help share with them techniques on how to do).

On a personal note, I had allergies as a kids (got shots and the whole nine yards), then when I went to college, I continued to get allergy shots and then one day I said "enough is enough! I don't need this" -- my parents weren't thrilled I did that, but that's what felt right to me. Since then, I have not had any allergy shots. Now, recently in Eugene, OR (matter of fact the past few days), I started sneezing A LOT and having some "allergy" symptoms. What I did was to let it be and ride its course. I didn't resist it or get really frustrated with it. Yes, I took 2 Advil (believe it or not, that sometimes helps a bit), but that's all I did. My partner kept on saying "God bless you" about 100 times in the day and felt more bad for me than I did for myself. I even looked at it in a positive and said to myself "Ahhh ... this is cleaning out all the gunk in my head!". What happened was within 1.5 days, all allergy symptoms were gone.

And here's the rub ... the News Reporters here in Eugene, OR were saying that the pollen count was at an all time high of 990 (whatever that means) -- but they said that usually high counts are at 200-300. So, when I heard this (which was after I already had felt better), I was celebrating! I was REALLY good, given my history from the past.

What I am trying to say is that you need to take your focus off the allergies, make peace with it (by resisting it less and letting it be), and just know that your body wants to align with total wellness and will once you release any resistance you have around having the reactions.

Forget about the "vibrational cause" and just send the "symptoms" love and only give them attention if it is a non-judmental, un-biased observer kind of attention. Say hello to your little friends and breathe a big sigh of relief, knowing that the will leave when they are not treated as the life of the party!

*****
Until tomorrow with Question #3... In the meanwhile, feel free to leave your questions on this blog and I will do my best to answer them. Who knows, maybe a Magazine column is in the works and I will be your Law of Attraction Health guru answering all your burning questions that pertain to how YOU can be a deliberate creator of your great health and well-being! Anything is possible! :)

To your Happiness & Health,
Maria

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National Stress Awarness Month - De-Stress and Love Life!

April is National Stress Awareness Month and I couldn't resist posting about this very popular subject of STRESS and how to eliminate it from our everyday lives.

Stress impacts our lives negatively in every way, shape and form. Our bodies respond negatively to stress. (And YES, you can gain weight just from being stressed!) Our relationships can fall apart as a result of feeling stressed. Our money situation can become "doom and gloom" as a result of the stress we feel.

Some of you may think that it is the other way around -- that we are stressed because of our financial situation or because of an area of our life that is not going too well -- but that is not the case; we are stressed because of what we choose to think and feel about our current life experiences.

Feeling stressed is a choice. Being happy is a choice.

We are all at choice on how we respond to what life throws our way. But here's the good news and bad news ...

If we respond with feeling stressed and worried to a specific life event, our life experiences will reflect that "in kind" - meaning we will attract to us more things to worry about (that's the bad news!). But if we respond by taking a breath, realizing that it's our response to that life situation that creates the results and then deliberately choosing more peaceful thoughts, releasing all worry and doubt, then our life will unfold beautifully (that's the good news).

In both of those scenarios there is one thing they have in common ... the power we have within to create our life experiences. It's all in our hands.

Paint a picture of what stress looks like? If you had a paintbrush and could represent "stress" in a painting or piece of art, what would it look like? For me, it would NOT look very pretty? It would represent "chaos" and "ugly" and would have a disorganized, disturbing look to it. Now imagine that same image (which is just energy) resonating at every cell of your body. Yes, STRESS is felt to the core of your being. What do you think that stressful energy does to your overall health and wellness? It surely does NOT benefit you.

Now, picture PEACE. Paint it. Represent a feeling of calm, peace and feeling joy in the moment. What would that picture look like? To me, it would have beautiful colors that soothe and refresh the soul. It would have a flow to it that feels so good. It would be a picture that is engaging and draws you in, wanting you to look at it more and more and having a positive impact on your mood.

Imagine what the picture of peace and calm would do to the insides of your body. Your cells feel that too and will respond "in kind". Your body will Thank You for embracing that energy of peace. You will sleep better; you will feel more energetic and motivated. Your body will move more with ease.

If you are stressed about your relationships, career or financial situation, then learn how to shift your mindset to a more peaceful energy right here, right now. Decide that today is the day that you are going to do something different that will help you to manage that stress more effectively. Speed Coaching can be just the thing that will jump-start your journey to a stress-free life. Once you learn how to de-stress and Love Life Now, your dreams will unfold beautifully and the state of your overall health will improve ten-fold (inside and out)!

If you find that you are one of those people that GAIN weight when you are under a lot of stress, then sign up for my Law of Attraction Weight Loss MindSet Program where you will learn how to reset your mindset to a more peaceful state of mind and reduce the stress you feel each and every day. Once you do this, your body will respond "in kind" and show you how happy it is that you are less stressed. Those poor food choices you make when you are stressed, will shift to more inspired, healthy choices that are aligned with Wellness.

It IS within your control to feel more at peace, even during those times where you feel you are in the middle of a "life storm". As a Stress Management Coach, I can help you to find that peace within.

There are many tools and resources that can help you to reduce or dare I say "eliminate" STRESS! What you feel is 100% within your control.

Click Here to see my top recommendations for stress relief tools and products (such as the emWave Personal Stress Reliever, The Sedona Method, & Money Mojo Magic) and begin your journey to stress-free living and Lovin' Life, no matter what!

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You're an Olympic Athlete in the Sport of Negative Thinking!

You may not realize this but you are a professional athlete when it comes to negative thinking. We all are. Think about how much you perfect this skill of negative thinking over the course of your life. Each and every day, you probably have a few negative thoughts without even realizing it. (It’s probably more than a few…but let’s go with that!). These thoughts could be about yourself or your current life situation or maybe even about other people in your life! Yes, you practice this skill every day and you become an EXPERT at it. You get so good at negative thinking that you don’t even know you are doing it, but your life experiences continue to show you that you sure are!

You are so good at negative thinking that even the essence of your dreams display to you how much you are focusing on the negative in your waking moments. You may even wake up from dreams hyperventilating or screaming!

One day the Universe gave me a gentle reminder that I had just practiced a negative thought – I smacked my funny bone in the wall while I was walking out of a room. Yes, I attracted that and it definitely got my attention too! Since I am always curious about how I attract things into my life, I reflected on what happened prior to that and I realized that I was looking in the mirror before that and had a negative thought. I thought to myself “Wow … I didn’t even realize that I had that thought until the gentle throbbing in my elbow reminded me of it!

Yes, it even happens to me … the Lovin’ Life Happiness Coach!

But I do have a heightened awareness of my thoughts & feelings and I pay attention often to how I feel. Even if I didn’t realize that I had negative thoughts, I will typically know by how I feel OR by an event like the elbow incident where I am reminded of it!

Do YOU ever think negative thoughts? Of course you do --- you’re human. But have you ever stopped to think what thinking those negative thoughts on a regular basis does to the quality of your overall life? Not only that, imagine what you are mis-creating by continuing to focus on the negative. Remember ... the Law of Attraction simply states: What you concentrate on expands!

A negative thought or feeling can take on many forms (it almost appears like there exists an infinite amount when you think about all the things you say and do during the course of a day):

1) You say “that can’t happen” or that will never happen to me!
2) I don’t want that
3) I feel frustrated and angry
4) This sucks
5) I can’t afford that
6) This is NOT working
7) If I only had (fill in the blank), I would be so much happier
8) My body is out of shape! Ugh!

You get the idea. The list can go on and on and on. Pay attention to everything you say through a day and ask yourself–“Did that just make me feel better or worse?” and “Did what I just say focus on the positive of what I really want or did I just remind myself of something that bothers me or something that I don’t have?”

Imagine this…What if each time you had a negative thought or feeling during the course of a day, you were slapped on the side of your head? Yes, you just heard me right … SLAPPED UPSIDE YOUR HEAD!

Would you have a headache by the end of the day? What about by the end of that week or month or year? Oh my!

Would you start paying more attention to what you were saying and feeling … then? (or do you like having that great big pain in your head!)

Believe this when I say it…each time you think and feel a negative thought and focus on all the things you don’t want in your life, you are figuratively slapping yourself upside your head and making it even more difficult for yourself to turn things around and feel better about a situation! Not only that, imagine what you are doing internally to yourself – physically!

It has been proven that stress and worry can create physical ailments in your body. Heck, people can even die of a broken heart … really!

That saying “Stress will kill you” is not just a saying. Every cell of your body responds to your thoughts and feelings and responds accordingly!

“When you let go of negative thoughts & feelings, your physical body responds in a positive way!”

Do yourself a favor. If there is a situation in your life that you are not satisfied with, start paying attention to what you say to yourself (and others) about that part of your life. Look within and ask yourself how you feel on a daily basis about that situation. How often do you think about it? What is the nature of your thoughts? How do you feel when you think these thoughts? Happy or sad? Exhilarated or frustrated? Hopeful or defeated?

Here’s a question that will give an indication if you are grounded in the negative more often than not:

Are you often waiting for the "shoe to drop" (the negative to happen)?
OR
Are you eagerly anticipating the positive to manifest?
(Expecting your dreams and desires to unfold)

Next time you have that negative thought or feeling, IMAGINE slapping yourself upside your head and start all over with that thought. Reset your thought process and try again.

A few suggestions on how to reset your negative mindset in the moment:

1) Tell yourself a more empowering story.

2) Ask yourself “So, what do I want?”

3) Reach for a better feeling, even if it means turning your focus to something totally
different that puts a smile on your face.

4) Build your positive imagination muscle. Close your eyes and imagine
having the thing you really want and FEEL what it would be like.
Really FEEL it!

5) Realize that any feeling you have is just that “your feeling” and you can choose to let go of it.

6) When all else fails, pull out that Gratitude Journal and start giving
lots of attention to the blessings in your life!

Give the positive side equal billing. Why be biased towards the negative outcome? It will definitely not bring you what you want in your life!

So start turning it around and become an Olympic Athlete in the Sport of Positive Thinking!

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Hire a Happiness Coach instead!

What are your goals really about anyway?

* Do you want to lose weight so that you can say "hey, I weigh 135 lbs -- isn't that fantastic?"

* Do you want to win that jackpot lottery so that you can roll & play in all that money in the

middle of your living room?

* Do you want to be successful at running your own business so that you can put a plaque on

your wall that says "I am a success! Whooo hooo!" Does being successful mean more money, impacting thousands of peoples' lives, living up to your own high expectations?

You get the idea. All of our goals are more about how we will FEEL when we achieve them.

Isn't it a feeling we are going for?

So, why not reach for that feeling first! There is nothing outside of us that can make us happy. It's all an inside job. Think about it ... there are millionaires that are very unhappy. If money made us happy, then these millionaires would be ecstatic. On the other side of that, there are people who don't have anything close to a million dollars but they are happy as pigs in ***** (well, you know what I mean!)

If being thin & fit was the ticket to being happy, then everyone who was "thin" would be extremely happy! But, that's not the case. Look at all those beautiful celebrities that are featured on the news with their gorgeous bodies and beautiful faces -- but are they all happy? Really happy? No, I don't think so.

That's why I was so motivated over 6 years ago to start my Lovin' Life Coaching Company!
I wanted to inspire people to be Lovin' Life, no matter what;
To Be Happy, despite the bumps in the road of life.

Happiness is what we all really want anyway, isn't it?

As a Happiness Coach, I help my clients do just that -- learn how they can be happy for absolutely no reason. And it's amazing what happens when they start to make that shift ...
their goals and dreams start unfolding with ease!

Yes, this is the way it works:

Love Life Now ====> Manifest Great things in your life! The Law of Attraction is always in action. If you are a happy individual ... really happy on the inside ... then how could you attract any experience in your life that was anything but positive?! ... You couldn't. It's all energy! Like attracts like. Learn how to be happy with who you are, where you are at right now, how you look, how much money you have in this present moment. Appreciate the things you do have. Go on a rampage of appreciation for all the blessings in your life. Embrace an attitude of trust that All is Well. Start embracing the belief that you can have what you want in life! The key to the above is that you MUST get out of your own way. The thoughts & feelings that you have about YOU on a daily basis play a major role in what you attract as life experiences. You are the creator of your life. You are the one in the driver's seat. What are you telling yourself about your life? If you think you are going to be happy WHEN you achieve that goal ... think again. If you are NOT happy now, that road to achieving your goals and dreams is going to feel long and difficult! And if you are constantly focusing on the fact that you are NOT there yet, that's the experience that you will keep on getting ... not being there yet! And what makes you think that if you are not happy now and you had what you want, that you would really be happy then? You don't need to have anything to be happy. It's a choice that is available to you right here ... right now. Hire a Happiness Coach --- and learn how to master the skill of Lovin' Life, no matter what! Once you learn that, your life experiences will exceed your wildest dreams because the Universe will just be matching your vibration. That's the way the Laws of the Universe work. And if your vibration is all about Lovin' Life and feeling Joy --WHOOO HOOO, those life experiences that you are going to attract will be DIVINE! What's your happiness worth to you? Can you even put a $ figure on that?

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Why is it NOT happening yet? - a Law of Attraction No-No!

In just the asking of the question “Why is it not happening yet?” you are giving attention to the fact that it is not happening – which is what you will continue to attract …
nothing happening.

It’s all about your focus. If you keep on looking for the manifestation of your desires, observing that you haven’t achieved what you want and feeling bad about it, you will continue to attract more of the same life experiences. Your focus is all around the lack of something that you want, not the eager anticipation of manifesting what you want! You can tell if you are focused on the lack of something by how you feel when you think about it.

If you are frustrated, disappointed, discouraged, then you are focused on the lack of having it!

Think about it ... if you are frustrated and disappointed, how are you ever going to attract what you really want? If weight loss is your goal, are you going to be motivated to go to that gym or do something active and fun if you are feeling bad about where you are at? No, of course not.

Same goes for the subject of MONEY ... if you keep on taking a snapshot of where you are at and judging it as a "bad thing" and feeling horrible about it, how can you ever be a MONEY MAGNET?! You can't!

What you concentrate on … expands. (That's the Law of Attraction in action!)

So, if you concentrate on your goal or dream not happening, what will you get? More proof that it is not happening. Not only that, you will get very discouraged! And the energy of "discouraged" can NOT bring to you the positive manifestations. How could it?

You must turn your focus to what is working, the little “wins”, the proof that things are moving in the direction of your dreams. Look for that proof. Find the shifts that are happening that are definitely taking you in the right direction. If you can’t find anything in your life that proves that you are on your way, look for the evidence elsewhere that what you want is possible.

Find the empowering stories in the news. Here are a couple of mine:

Click here to read about my story of successful weight loss and to download a free report on how to reset your mindset to permanently lose that excess weight! (And YES, you will see a before and after picture there!)

Visit here if you want to read about how I am living life to its fullest and maintaining great health, even after a diagnosis of MS! You can treat any diagnosis of a chronic health condition as just a bump in the road!

Observe instances where others have turned adversity into opportunity and then say to yourself “If they can do it, I can too!” You can choose to do that, just by reading my stories above! And if you find yourself cooking up a story about why they can have it and you can’t, stop and realize that it is just your fear and your gremlins talking! You can have anything you want when you change your mindset and belief around whether you can have it.

There is absolutely no reason why you can’t (only the ones that you are telling yourself).

Change your story to one that is more empowering and watch the magic happen in your life.

And when all else fails and you find yourself with such a negative emotional charge around the dream you are not manifesting, turn your focus to something completely different - something that brings you pure joy! Make a list of things that put a smile on your face and make sure you do at least one of these things when you are in a funk about your dream not manifesting. Here are a few examples of things that are on my Smile List:

1) Go out to my favorite restaurant with my honey (if you are wondering, I LOVE PF Changs!)
2) Take a 4-mile walk down by the river
3) Connect with my wonderful community of positive friends on Twitter
4) Pet my favorite neighborhood dog
5) Read a great inspirational book
6) Watch a funny movie
7) If I am in the mood - declutter! (the energy of de-cluttering can feel SO freeing!)
8) Take a road trip
9) Coaching my wonderful clients

You would be amazed at what happens when you turn your focus to that which puts a smile on your face and brings you great joy. The desires and dreams you want start manifesting with ease. Start making your very own Smile List and turn to it when you are feeling frustrated that your dreams and desires are not here yet!

So, instead of having that mentality of the kid who keeps on asking on that road trip “Are we there yet?”, start enjoying the journey of getting there and know, right down to the core of your being that you WILL get there. Just know!

Decide that you will get there and leave the HOW to the Universe!

Create an extraordinary Lovin' Life day for yourself!

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