I recently had a Doctor coaching client tell me that she was more credible when she was fit and athletic. And that when she was "out of shape" (by her standards) that she did not feel as credible in every area of her life. The first thing I did was to point out to her that she was making her "worth" and "credibility" conditional upon something outside of her. After all, how you look does not define who you are as a person.
I know, in today's society there are many things that point to quite the opposite. A lot of emphasis is put on "how you look" and that the prettier you are, the more likely you are to get a job or that "gig". But honestly, I don't buy it! What you get is what you believe about you. My client was basically setting herself up for some really "crappy" feeling moments in her life. And it doesn't have to be that way. We get to choose what we believe. And we decide are SELF WORTH on the inside, not based on the outside stuff.
So, I gave my client an exercise to start proving herself "wrong" -- to look for the times in her life where she is very "credible", but not necessarily in that tip top shape that she so desires. Sure, being in shape makes us feel more empowered, we feel lighter and possibly even more energetic ... but making the correlation between your "weight" and how "good" or "credible" or "worthy" you are??? That is just setting you up for failure.
Now, some people might say they get motivated by putting themselves down when they are not living up to their standards. Well, this may work temporarily, but over the course of time, it is going to wear on you. When I asked my client how she FEELS when she believes that, she said "CRAPPY"! That's an indication right there that it is time to change what you believe. It is time to start proving yourself wrong. It is time to start telling yourself a different story.
What she was believing was NOT motivating her, matter of fact it was doing quite the opposite. She was more likely to NOT exercise and to eat foods that were not as healthy as she usually eats. She was disgusted with herself. And here's where the Law of Attraction kicks in. If you are "disgusted" with yourself and keep on focusing on what you don't like about your body and judge yourself about how poorly you are doing, then you are going to attract more things in your life that are going to make you feel "disgusted" and "icky" about you. Like attracts like. That's the basic premise of the Law of Attraction.
So decide today that no matter what you look like on the outside, that's all that matters is what you think and believe about you on the inside. There are people in the world that are confident and love who they are, despite how much they weigh or what type of job they have or what the outside world is saying about them. Confidence and self worth come from within and we all have access to that.
To Your Health & Happiness,
Life Coach, Maria Lesetz